How Do You Get Over Someone?

Talking recently to a friend of mine on how to get over someone has me truly thinking and asking the question myself, "How DO you get over someone?" Like we all know that there are no manuals on relationships and that we learn by trial and error but even myself, at a fabulous twenty something, has never really learned nor mastered the "how to get over someone" concept. I remember my past relationships in high school or even middle school (are we really counting back that far?) when I use to just start talking to someone else and that would help me get over it. But than again, in high school kids break up and are okay the very next day. But what happens when you fall in love, madly in love and things don't go as planned and it's time to move on? How are suppose to get over that person than? It's already hard to realize and recognize when it is time to let go and it's even more difficult trying to erase that person out of your mind. My thoughts? DON'T. Don't try to erase someone from your memory in hopes that it is going to help you get over that person. You are only torturing yourself and making things more difficult. There has to be a better way. Some of my male friends think that the high school way is the best appraoch: find someone else to occupy your time. Haha one of my friends said, "Cold hearted approach, go fuck a whole bunch of people." Yea right! Although, this may work for awhile, how long will it last til your back at square one? SMH, I disagree....

I'll stick the way I think is the best simply occupy your time with getting to re-know yourself, spoiling yourself, finding hobbies, focusing on YOU and making YOU happy!

25 Questions

1. Why are people STILL talking about Chris Brown and Rihanna? Can we let these two live?
2. Is Diddy trying to take over Twitter?
3. Is it just me? But ever since Ray-J got his own reality television show, "For the Love of Ray J" I feel like I deserve my own reality show too.
4. Does anyone watch American Idol anymore?
5. Do the Republicans get dumber and dumber as times go? Hence, their new leader Mr. Idiot
6. Who exactly is Keri Hilson talking to in her "Turn Me On" remix, since she claims she isn't going at Beyonce or Ciara.
7. Remember when FACEBOOK was the thing to do?
8. Clubs are out and lounges are in.
9. With crime at its highest peak should women start carrying tasers? And is that even legal? Hence, rape in College Park recently.
10. I love Keyshia Cole but when is she going to stop blaming poor Frankie, for everything gone bad in her life? Season Finale? MAN DOWN
11. Is anyone shocked that Terrell Owens got let go by the Dallas Cowboys?
12. Was I the only one impressed that the girl off BET's,Harlem Nights voice stayed that way the entire time?
13. Are we still in love with the Obamas even more?
14. Ciara or Keri who do you think would win?
15. Ron Browz versus T-Pain whose voice is more annoying?
16. Does every girl who stands in front of a camera consider themselves a model?
17. Has Solange not rightfully earned not to be referred to as Beyonce's little sister?
18. Why are people [Andrea] obsessed with 24
19. If you get fired from a job during these rough economical times, is it safe to say that you are entitled to e-mail EVERYONE and tell them what you really thought about them?
20. When will the mens' skinny jeans trend go away?
21. Does long distance relationships work?
22. When will people get that its NOT okay to break up/end a relationship through text messages?
23. Is Rihanna's career over?
24. I hate to admit it, but MAC'S Hello Kitty line is cute.
25. Why are people over spending like they're getting a couple Gs back from their taxes? Can you say HOODRICH.

He's Just Not Into You

Finally a movie that depicts everything that I have been saying since forever. He is JUST NOT INTO YOU! I think the biggest problem between males and females is communication. Often times the male will clearly state what it is that he wants to gain (or take advantage) out of the relationship. The woman eagerly accepts only to have this plot in the back of her mind that she can change it, she can make him want to be in a relationship with her or take her seriously. But how could you expect him too, when he clearly stated what he wanted from the beginning! Usually there are signs everywhere of when a guy is into you and not into you. It's not rocket science to tell when he is not into you. Some women choose to ignore these signs thinking that in the long run things are going to change. Stop wasting your time and his. He has laid the stipulations of the relationship from the beginning and if that is not what you are looking for than retreat! DO NOT get yourself involved. I hope Drew Barrymore in the new movie, He's Just Not Into You can bring us not only laughter but some insight and pointers on how to know when to retreat and when to stay.